RUNNING HOT & COLD: The Physics of Emotion
We instinctively map physical heat to emotional intensity and physical cold to emotional detachment. This creates a thermometer for our feelings.
You have mastered Vision, Touch, Taste, Hearing, and Smell. Now we look at Temperature.
The Cognitive rule is: AFFECTION IS WARMTH. When we hold a baby or hug a friend, we feel body heat. Therefore, “warmth” becomes the feeling of love, while “coldness” is the absence of connection.
1. Affection: Warmth
Intimacy generates heat. We describe friendly and loving things as “warm.”
- “She gave us a warm welcome.” (Friendly and inviting.)
- “He is a very warm person.” (Kind and affectionate.)
- “It warms my heart.” (It creates a feeling of love/happiness.)
2. Intensity: Heat
When we are angry or active, our blood pressure rises and we feel hot.
- “We had a heated argument.” (Intense and angry.)
- “He needs to blow off some steam.” (Release the pressure of anger.)
- “That’s a hot topic right now.” (Active, controversial, current.)
3. Detachment: Cold
Death and fear make us cold. A lack of emotion is described as freezing.
- “She gave me the cold shoulder.” (Ignored me intentionally.)
- “He got cold feet.” (Lost courage/became afraid.)
- “Just chill out.” (Reduce your emotional intensity.)
Did you know?
We use “Cool” to mean “admirable” because being “Cool” implies you are under control. You are not “Hot” (angry/flustered) or “Cold” (scared). You are perfectly balanced.
Quiz: Hot or Cold?
Check the emotional temperature.